4 Things You Should Do For Your Significant Other When the World Seems Out of Control
We live in crazy times. I have seen people change in front of my eyes. I have also witnessed couples going down the drain during these times. Everything looked perfect before this whole situation that is going on in the world happened. And this can happen to every one of us if you’re not aware of the changes. You have someone you love dearly, who loves you in return. Life looks good.
Until it doesn’t. Disaster strikes. Unexpected change has turned your world out of control. Everything you’ve worked so hard to build is about to come crashing down around you.
Even if the crisis has absolutely nothing to do with the two of you, this kind of change can put an immense strain on a relationship. Tempers flare. Unresolved issues crop up all over again. If you’re not careful, things can fall apart very quickly, which is why it’s so essential to do the next three things immediately.
Become a Safe Place
Regardless of whether this crisis is theirs or something affecting you both, you’re going to have to take the same approach. You need to be someone the other person can count on. You’re here to be their partner, even in the tough times. Remember the wows? Though good and bad times…The other person needs to feel like they can come to you with what they’re feeling and thinking entirely without judgment. If ever there was a time to be your loving best, it’s right now when you hold them through this change.
Once they trust you to be there for them, your next goal is to master your own emotions. You might be upset, angry, sad, worried, anxious, or a whole host of other things. You can even express that you’re feeling these things to your loved one (they’ll probably appreciate knowing they’re not the only ones feeling this way). But you absolutely cannot be reacting emotionally. Here’s where you have to hold back on your gut reaction and instead find a keen interest in what’s going on around you. Having a clear head is one of the best things you can give them right now, but you’ll never manage if you’re over-emotional.
Help Sort Things Out
Now that you’ve gotten a handle on the facts, it’s time to work together on an action plan. Your next goal? Be the one that finds balance. Help them to see the situation clearly. Make them feel safe. Be someone who can help give a little perspective. Once a plan is made, be ready to help carry it out.
Remember That You Communicate Differently
Men and women communicate in different ways. Men go straight to the point where women explain everything in detail. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s only the way evolution had taught us both to communicate. The men want to fix everything while the women want to be heard, feel safe and connected. So remember that when your wife might want to share something with you, she doesn't want you to fix it, but only wants you to be present. And when your husband comes home and you might ask him how the day was, don't get upset if he only replies with, “Good!” It’s not that he has something to hide, it's just the way men communicate. A lot of problems come up due to a lack of communication, or perhaps a lack of understanding between the two ways of communication. So be mindful of that.
The world might feel like it’s spiraling out of control, and perhaps it is, but with these three steps, you can protect your relationship with your significant other and show them you truly are a team going forward. By doing this, you’re reminding them just how much you love them and how much you are on their side. Especially now during these challenging times.
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