Social media and the trend of instant gratification has made self-esteem problems skyrocket. It is important to feel confident in the skin you are in, regardless of color, size, background, or social status. There is a lot of truth to the saying that beauty is only skin deep. It really is what’s inside that matters. Everyone is meant to look different, so I have some tips to help you if you’re feeling down.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”
Unfortunately, today’s world can often make people believe that we should rather all be a cheap copy of someone else rather than the precious original that we are. Please be an original. Please be YOURSELF!
Don’t Let The Scale Dictate Your Value
Keeping an eye on your weight is important to help maintain a healthy life. Still, your weight alone is not an indication of beauty. Obsessing about how much you weigh every time you step in the bathroom, though, is only going to add to your stress, lower your self-esteem, and cause you to have a lower view of your personal self-image. If you really feel you have to keep such a close eye on your weight, try weighing yourself once a week or even once every two weeks to help reduce stress and allow yourself to focus on health more than weight.
Skip Fashion Magazines
Fashion magazines used to be a place to get tips and fashion advice paired with some glamorous imagery. These days, they are little more than books full of photoshopped images that are just thinly veiled product advertisements. Who in their right mind would buy expensive products from someone who looks like the lady next door, no one. Even the models on the cover don’t look like the perfected images they portray. Save yourself the extra dose of ego-deflating images and pick up a gardening book instead, or better still, something that will allow you to grow and get to know yourself better. Real people have bumps, texture, scars, and cellulite, but they don’t reduce their worth or beauty.
Spend Less Time In The Mirror
Too much time in front of the mirror can actually have a negative effect on how you see yourself. The more you look at your face or body, the more things you will find that make you unhappy. Most people who struggle with body image concerns spend several hours a day looking at their reflection and seeking out things they want to change. Make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of time you spend looking at the mirror to improve how you feel about how you look. Instead, only look in the mirror during your grooming time and focus on your skills more than your looks.
And if you really love to look at yourself in the mirror, I have a great exercise for you. I use it with many of my clients.
So, go to the mirror, and I’d like you to look into your eyes. Nothing else, just your eyes. No thinking, no talking… just look. Your mind will probably tell you that it’s crazy, but you just keep watching until a smile appears on your face. That is the smile that comes after seeing the beautiful soul that you are looking right back at you. Sometimes also, a tear could appear instead—a tear of self-forgiveness, self-love, and compassion. And soon after… the smile will show up.
This is the true you that you will connect with—the YOU deep inside your soul. And when you finally see it say, I Love You! Watch how this simple exercise will make you feel. You will just have found your best friend. A friend that will never let you down. A friend that will always have your back, and unconditionally love you forever.
If you do this exercise, and I hope you do, please reach out to me here and let me know your experience.